Eat the Cupcake or Go Home…

Eat The Cupcake or Go Home…

OK, that’s not exactly how it happened.

But my sweet little girl no longer attends her private Christian pre-school.
Pretty much the way we eat was “too much of a problem”.

This blog is not necessarily about our situation or about the school. I have no desire to bad mouth my children’s school and know this was an isolated incident. What this blog post is really about is the bigger picture.

I get it. I really do. Our lifestyle is misunderstood. We don’t fit in with the “norm”.
We make decisions that go against belief systems that are so engrained in our mainstream society.

The thing is, I don’t care to fit in anymore. And I know I don’t have control over whether people understand me or not. But I do have a desire to teach and educate and empower others.

And I will never stop doing that.

Writing about these passions of mine regarding health (food, vaccines, medicine) are what God has called me to do. I’ll be honest, I haven’t always embraced this call on my life. In fact, I’ve struggled with it. I’ve asked the Lord plenty of times: Why me? I don’t want to be a vaccine spokesperson. I just want to stay in my own little comfort zone where I know that the decisions I make for my family work for us. I know my children are protected and safe and healthy. I have total and complete peace over my decisions. Now, can I just sit back and do my own life and not care what anyone else does?

Nope. That’s not how it works. God’s plans are always bigger and better.
That doesn’t mean easier, just better.

My passions and these topics are constantly offending people. Whether it’s through a fb post where I share the current statistics of this generation of sick kids, and suddenly everyone who reads the statistics thinks I’m personally attacking their child.  Or if I post an article about the ineffectiveness of a vaccine, somehow I’m offending the mom who just gave her child that vaccine. Interesting how someone can share an article about a Johnson & Johnson baby shampoo recall, and suddenly every mother that has ever used that shampoo is so thankful to know the truth.  Vaccines don’t work that way.  I can’t really think of a more controversial topic.

Yay for me, that’s the topic I speak about on a daily basis.

And then there’s the topic of food. Even my kids are now offending people. At a recent class party, when my child was asked if she wanted a cupcake, she responded “No thank-you, that is not healthy”. Apparently that offended the teacher and I am raising my children “to be judgmental”.

Since when did healthy food choices become offensive?

I understand that people don’t want to hear that the skittles they just ate are carcinogenic and filled with petroleum. Suddenly they are offended because they like skittles. And how dare you talk about the ingredients in foods that people like to eat.

How dare you make a teacher feel like the food she feeds the students at a class party is not good enough for your child. That is extremely offensive.  Especially if they already think you are nuts because of your view on vaccines or the fact that you don’t give fever reducers.  At that point, pretty much any decision you make is going to be met with opposition and resistance and criticism.

According to this teacher, my children suffer when they have fevers. How do I know this? She wrote about it on fb. Who cares that I spent 2 years in ER rooms wondering why my baby had such high fevers when she had a slight illness (104-105 degrees) and no-one could give me any answers. So I started researching and learned that the fever reducers I was giving her were doing more harm than good. That they were depleting her glutathione and making it impossible for her to heal and recover from a common cold. I learned that fevers are not to fear. I learned that when I let a fever takes its course, my child recovered much quicker. I’ve shared that research here: Fevers Are Not to Fear & And then there were TUBES. Every decision I make for MY children comes from an abundance of diligent research.

Who cares that it’s an educated decision to not feed your child sugar and artificial colors. It would almost be easier to have a kid who was allergic to red dye or peanuts, that way it wouldn’t be an offensive “choice”.

Food allergies are accommodated for. Food choices are offensive.

For the past week, I have sat through meetings and had more conversations concerning  what took place at my child’s school than I care for. I’ve sat with the teachers, the Director, the Pre-School Minister. And while the story is long and painful and upsetting and hurtful, it’s also quite simple. We are misunderstood. Our choices for our children are not seen as EDUCATED choices. Our decisions are second-guessed, criticized, and misunderstood.

This lifestyle is so misunderstood that during one of the meetings this past week, I was asked if “our practices also don’t believe in bathing?” Really? I’m not quite sure what “our practices” are, but the last time I checked the same parents that want healthy kids, also want clean kids. Who wants dirty healthy kids? That doesn’t even make sense.

See the misconception is this: A non-vaccinating parent that feeds their children proper life-giving nutrition and treats sickness naturally, well the kids of those parents, they are being neglected by their uneducated and misinformed parents. You know, those neglected kids that have the occasional runny nose, and heaven forbid their parents don’t do anything about it. Who cares that a clear runny nose is a sign that the body is eliminating something it doesn’t want in the body. You know part of God’s great plan for us to detox. No, dope the kids up on meds. Mask those symptoms. We don’t care about healing or treating the symptoms. We just don’t want to see the runny nose.

I didn’t pick up Vogue Magazine one day and read an article about how cool it is to not vaccinate and suddenly decide… “Hey, I don’t think I’m going to vaccinate my kids. I sure hope this is the right decision.”

What these teachers don’t understand is that parents who choose not to vaccinate are the most educated and informed parents I have ever met. We aren’t just a bunch of crazy anti-vaccine conspiracy theory activists who don’t bathe their children. Haha!

Seriously though, I have done more research on this topic than I ever imagined was possible. Just when I think I’ve caught up on current research, 20 new published studies pop up in medical literature, and suddenly I’m neck deep in research again.  I Hope You’ve Done Your Research. Not to mention the fact that I am literally surrounded by friends with vaccine injured children. Everyday my fb newsfeed is filled with stories from my autism mommas and parents of children who are chronically ill from vaccines (asthma, allergies, adhd, intestinal issues, autoimmune disorders, autism, etc..). As long as the vaccine schedule keeps increasing and our food chain becomes more toxic, these stories will NEVER go away.

That’s why I started the Lioness Arising Series. The stories of the these children and their mommas must be told.

Every week I receive dozens of messages from parents asking me questions, desperate for help, thanking me, etc… Sometimes my inbox is so overwhelming I can’t keep up. I know I’m walking in God’s will though, because He continues to give me the strength and grace to walk this journey. It’s not always easy. I’m often tired and feel defeated. Especially when I have to defend my decisions to my children’s school.

I didn’t see a picture of a celebrity eating an organic salad one day and think “Oh that looks cool and trendy, I want to eat organic”. The decision to feed our children the way we do comes from years and years of research, starting with my revolutionary parents who started the first Health Food restaurant in Louisiana 35 years ago. My sister Harm could practically write a book based on her research of food. My husband Rit reads every book there is from “Foods that Fight Cancer” to “The Green Pharmacy Herbal Handbook”.

Ever read “Nourishing Traditions?” Why would we continue to let our kids eat junk when we know too much about what it can do to their bodies? Why would I compromise my research  just because my kids’ class is having a party? We were once told “You can’t really make a religion out of how you eat”.  Funny, I see it differently.  I call it being a good steward over the life and body God gave you.

I watch chronically sick children get healed through proper diet & nutrition. Those parents have to make a religion out of how they feed their kids, otherwise their kids won’t heal. If we can heal sick kids through proper food & diet & nutrition, then why not feed  healthy kids this way and avoid all the pain and suffering and sickness and illness?

I wish these teachers would have chosen to focus on the results of our families lifestyle, rather than the fact that the process might not look “normal”. Like the fact that in the two consecutive years these same teacher had our kids, my children never missed a single day of school due to being sick. That my children have never been on a single prescription medication, including antibiotics. When every other kid is getting their “rites of passage” ear infection that is somehow considered “normal”, none of my children have ever had a single ear infection.

I could maybe understand if my kids were always sick, always at the doctor, always on antibiotics or getting prescriptions filled. Then there might be reason for concern. But there was no basis for concern. The concern was that I don’t fit into the box they want me to fit into. They wanted my kid to eat the cupcake, just like every other kid. Who cares that children are smart and once they realize that certain foods actually make them feel worse, they have no desire to eat that food again. No instead, it’s “Hey kid…eat your cupcake and be quiet”.

So here’s to all you other crazy parents who choose to practice health differently…

Eat your Cupcake or Go Home!

110 thoughts on “Eat the Cupcake or Go Home…

  1. Another great blog, Jess. It reminds me of the Einstein quote, “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” Truth takes its time to permeate the mind of the unwilling, but it always prevails. I love you and am eternally grateful for the way you take care of my precious nieces and nephew!


  2. LOVE YOU GIRL! And you know I could have written that whole thing almost to a T!

    But yes it is sad that WE are seen as the outcasts, the freaks, the crazy people…when WE are the ones actually taking our kids health into our hands instead of throwing our hands up and saying…ah what the hell just eat the damn cupcake, I’ll just deal with the madness when I get home so the teacher won’t see any of it or have to clean the bright green poop from the undies, or see the bounce off the walls or deal with your green snotty nose and coughing for the next three days. Yeah dear just eat your damn cupcake and shut up as dear ole Nancy would tell us! 😉

    But seriously you are a blessed soul and these people just don’t like that we DO know better than them and our children ARE healthy in spite of all their “knowledge and belief” in the system.

    You know I love my quotes, here’ some good ones…

    “All truth goes through three stages. First it is ridiculed. Then it is violently opposed. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident. Facts are stubborn, and refusal to accept them does not avoid their inexorable effects-the tragic consequences are now upon us” ~Hellen Keller.

    “Most men can seldom accept even the simplest and most obvious truth if it would oblige them to admit the falsity of conclusions which they have delighted in explaining to colleagues, have proudly taught to others, and have woven thread by thread into the fabric of their lives.” ~ Tolstoy

    Hosea 4:6 (NIV): “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.”

    “Differences are not intended to separate, to alienate. We are different precisely in order to realize our need of one another.” ~Desmond Tutu


  3. Great post, Jess!! I’m proud to be your friend. You see, you did this research out of a desire for health; I did it because I had to…….I was once a cupcake eating, vaccinating mom. My world did a 180 due to my son’s vaccine injury. I so admire all you moms out there who learn from mentors (like your parents) than from mistakes:))
    Oh, and I have a feeling this teacher may not be employed at this school next year……


  4. Another great commentary about our Fine World we all live in. It is all messed up and it starts with our government and the control they want over all of us. Vaccines, food, health –only problem is the “ones” in control are NOT EDUCATED they are selfish, self centered, money grubbing and non lovers of OUR America which we all need to work hard to get back to the way God would want it. AG


  5. Lol!!! “There is a difference between being allergic to a food and just choosing not to eat it”. OMG. Ok, then………My children are allergic to all known carcinogens.


  6. I love this post, Jess! I’ve also been “called”, and understand what you mean about sometimes it would be so much easier to just be quiet. My call is to train adults how to eat, and many of them completely refuse to change, and would rather deal with chemo than the though of giving up their cheeseburger and coke!

    Keep up the good fight!

    “You surely know that your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit lives. The Spirit is in you and is a gift from God. You are no longer your own. God paid a great price for you. So use your body to honor God.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20


    1. Mari Ann, I would LOVE to learn more from you. I would love to hear about how you train adults to eat properly. Thank-you for the verse. And thank-you for taking the time to respond to this blog. God Bless, Jess


  7. Really well written article. I really get where you are coming from. It is funny how many people feel so threatened by people who promote healthy living. Recently I asked to asked if I could offer Smoothies in my kids High School along side the bake sale/soda weekly prom fundraiser. Such resistance. It took years to get the soda machines out of the school & now Mom’s bring it in to raise $. Still waiting for an answer. Have you ever heard of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition? I attend here a few year ago and became certified as a Health Coach. It’s a great place to surround yourself with Health-minded individuals. I love that your parents were so a head of their time by opening up a Health Food Store. I was pretty much raised on the Standard American Diet, although even that was healthier then then it is now. She did promote healthy eating but didn’t have access to all that we know now. She didn’t nurse any of us because doctors in our area were promoting formula in the 60’s. She never even saw any one nurse until my sister & I did. I look forward to reading more from you.


  8. Great article. I pray that many eyes and hearts are opened by reading it. I know the struggles you speak of. We’ve been there with the resistance to our food “restrictions” even though they are necessary due to intolerance to certain foods. We’ve been called neglectful for homebirthing and not vaccinating. One thing I am thankful for is that I have seen a lot of this stuff (natural eating and living) becoming much more mainstream over the last 8 to 10 years. Many more people are educating themselves and taking responsibility for their family’s health. It is encouraging, but there are still so many who prefer to live in ignorance. Keep up the good work!


    1. Carmen, Thank-you for your encouragement. It’s nice to hear that “mainstream” is improving. I am so thankful to meet people like you. I love your blog and can’t wait to try many of your recipes.


  9. Wonderful post! I have type 1 (autoimmune) diabetes. I’ve always been a healthy eater since I was tiny–long before I even knew I had this problem. Even when people know I have a serious problem involving food, I have found some people think its offensive that I don’t eat what they eat. I believe this diabetes was the result of a vaccination that made me very ill as a child. In fact, I have four other autoimmune diseases that started to appear one year after the continued illness that resulted from this vaccination. But now, for me it is life or death, and I can’t be around people who do not fully support the way I eat.

    Even though you daughter’s teacher may have found it offensive, I have found that people end up being receptive and the experience may help them in the end. I had a relative that had Celiac disease come visit and I was annoyed at her being so picky with food. I didn’t understand. But I was very lucky to have met her, because shortly thereafter, I realized I had the same problem she did…When I meet people who are upset by my eating habits, I often remember this story.

    I also met a guy who got very angry at me because I would not eat pizza at an academic event. I met him later and he had since given up pizza, although he was drinking diet soda…I told him the soda was not good for him either…he was not as angry this time around…

    People are offended at things they don’t know or don’t understand. Once we give it a little thought, and explore these new ideas, then our minds open. I enjoyed your post. And I liked the way you looked at the situation. You probably do a better job at helping others than most who are offended back at the offended people…Its good to break the chain.


    1. WOW! Marisol, your story is amazing. I am so in awe that you have found a way to treat your type 1 (autoimmune) diabetes through proper diet and nutrition. I often hear people say that their diabetes is genetic and there is nothing they can do for it. How were you able to learn that your autoimmune diseases were caused by vaccines? I’d love to learn more about your story. Thank-you for your kind words as well.


      1. I don’t see where Marisol stated that she “found a way to treat” her T1 through proper diet and nutrition; I only see where she states the way she eats is a matter of life and death for her. If I am wrong, I apologize – I simply do not see that in her post. As for diabetes being “genetic,” although it has been proven through years of research that people do carry a genetic predisposition for T2 Diabetes, no definitive research has linked genetics to T1 Diabetes.

        Unfortunately, the media has done a lot of harm in its attempt to “eduate” the public on Diabetes all together: (1) most people cannot tell you the differences between T1 and T2; and (2) the misinformation (and in many circumstances complete lack of information!) leads many who might otherwise avoid T2 all together with a proper diet and exercise to lean upon the crutch of “well my parents had it so I was bound to have it too.”

        I think your blog is very well written and articulate. Kudos to you!


      2. My response in regards to a reader “treating” her T1 diabetes through proper food & diet: I know many people who “treat” their diabetes without insulin injections. Maybe I assumed that is what the reader meant. I do know that every autoimmune disease, aka manmade diseases, can be treated through proper diet & nutrition.


  10. Even though we have never met….I think you are my new best friend! My non vaccinating, organic eating, natural childbirth obsessed self is not planning on backing down anytime soon. You untangled many of thoughts in my head and put them on paper, and for that I thank you! Thank you so much for this wonderful post!


    1. Hello new best friend 🙂
      Thank-you for your kind words! I’m not planning on backing down any time soon either.
      “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed it is the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead


  11. Keep going. Don’t ever stop. For what it is worth from someone who doesn’t have children, but was raised by a very similar mother to you, I appreciate what you are doing and hope to do as well as you do for my future children. I may never meet you in person but I sincerely appreciate you sticking to your morals, to your own personal truth and giving your children the best.

    Sometimes I think that people who are angered and offended are only that because it is a knee jerk response not to the trigger, i.e. the cupcake, but to the fact that they are taking it as “I am internalizing what you are saying as my choices are not the right ones. But I am doing the best that I can and you are making me feel like it isn’t enough but realistically I don’t want to change even if you told me it would make x,y and z better for me. So how dare you challenge me in such a way!”. They take the fact that you have made the time to do the research, to change your life, to live it without waiver as an attack because you have your convictions and that is then internalized as “Well she thinks she is better then me”, when the only thing you are is more informed. People have such a fear of being inferior that when that fear surfaces it comes out in ways you wouldn’t really imagine they would. In your circumstance it was the teacher being angry and offended over a preschooler not eating a cupcake. Ugh (facepalm). And more then likely the teacher, being older and therefor wiser by “known” human conventions, probably did not like the fact that a) your child made a choice that wasn’t the norm and 2) understood why that choice was made and 3) is more knowledgeable about food at preschool age.

    Keep going. Regardless of what they, myself or anyone else thinks, you are doing right for you and at the end of the day that is all that matters.


  12. The bottom line is that it is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS, I love the way everyone is so hell bent on being politically correct for all the wrong reasons, people make me sick. I am glad you have the balls and energy to educate, care and speak out – so friends like me can learn from your modeling, Love you , and you know what i say….”you want me to kick their ass for you? I will !” Kisses and Love forever


  13. Awesome post. First time reader here, but you could have taken the words right out of my mouth. We have stumbled recently in the nutrition department because I am pregnant and I am having a hard time eating anything, but it is a constant battle with family and friends to get them to respect our decisions. In fact we try to keep our decisions to ourselves when it comes to my in-laws, however they found out that we do not vaccinate our son (I am vaccine injured) and they took it upon themselves to go behind our back and contact doctors to try to change our mind. They basically threw me under the bus making me out to be crazy and that my hubby just hides behind my apron. It is a mess. Thanks for being a voice of reason when the world is trying to drown out anyone who is different or free thinking. God bless you and your beautiful family!


    1. Wow! Thank-you for taking the time to share your story. It saddens me that your research (knowing you are vaccine injured) and choosing to not repeat that through another generation cannot be respected. What happened to respecting decisions, especially when they are educated decisions? I’m sorry that your family does not understand. That is one thing I have, a supportive family. I cannot imagine having to battle family as well (especially if they went behind my back to contact doctors). Truth always wins. God Bless!


      1. Thank you for being strong enough to get your voice out there! I do my share with calling my representatives and trying to talk to people, but I am also scared to really speak out like you are doing on your blog. For the record my family is very supportive, but they are small. It is my hubby’s rather large family that is not supportive. So all is not lost. Most of our close friends are incredibly supportive too. In fact, most of our friends have known all along while we chose to keep our choices from most of the family.


  14. At Kindergarten registration, I handed the nurse the full page health questionaire – which was blank by the way! We literally have none of those issues! Her response, “wow! This is the easiest kid I’ve seen!!!”. Hahaha! I just said “funny how that works huh?” as I handed her the vaccine exemption form!!!!


  15. You so totally Rock there Momma!! Welcome to the crazy club…you know Mom’s who make their own toothpast and grow their own food….happy to have you on board!! God bless you and your precious family!


  16. I can so relate to this! We do have food allergies, but also are on “special diets” and eat only real, mostly organic foods. I know we have frustrated our church staff and family, though they have been gracious enough to our faces. I’ll never understand why our choices are taken as criticism. It reminds me of when my parents started homeschooling us kids and some of our extended family was so offended because they worked in public schools. Fast forward 20 years, and they now have grandchildren being homeschooled and are wholehearted advocates! More people join our “weird” ranks every day, but the rifts in the meanwhile are indeed painful. Thanks for this post and keep telling the truth!


    1. Thank-you! Yes, the rifts in the meanwhile are painful. But one of my favorite quotes says:

      “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” -Ghandhi


  17. Ah, yes….we just had an incident like this at the pediatricians regarding what I am feeding….and not feeding my 9 month old. Glad to know I am not the only one 🙂


  18. Hi! It is not accepted when you want to eat healthy and clean. Lots of people think that frame of mind is overboard. Stay strong sound like that school is not for you.where is tolerance? I do want to say food allergies are tough there is not much tolerance. Many are put out that your child has needs to life threatening a food. That to is not easy. I have been asked can’t he have that cupcake so he doesn’t feel left out.Seriously!


  19. WOW…this is extreme Jess, but sometimes you have to be extreme to be heard and sometimes it is uncomfortable when you know the truth…that deep down , we are what we eat. And although that cupcake may look good, it sure wont make your body look good:) or feel good for that matter…It is about knowledge and empowering our kids to make GOOD, Healthy choices…

    By the way, the only other controversial topic that I think rivals this one is Abortion!!! Anti-Vaccines and ProLife! Sign me up, I want to be part of that debate:)

    xxx your friend of 36 years…Love you!!! Alina


  20. Wow God has indeed gifted you, very well written. I was referred here by Modern Alternative Mama and I am so glad I found you. This is amazing stuff. I am not a mom yet but hope to be in the near future and do lots of research myself ( I have gotten rid of all plastics in the house etc.. I have a blog on my attempts to get rid of chemicals in my home ) but so want to be a part of a community to get all the info I need because if we all collate our research then we’ll all be better off – there is so much info out there. I am familiar with the controversy on vaccines for example but would love some cold hard facts.
    I really respect and admire you for your stance with your family and will check the rest of your blog to see what you have written about previously, but I would LOVE to know exactly how you do it, what you do about vaccines and healthcare and diet etc.
    Nice to meet you. Lets stay in touch!


    1. Katrina, Thank-you for your kind words. I’m glad you found this blog. I hope you find it a place of learning. There are many posts on vaccines, health, food, etc… Please feel free to ask questions as your read.

      What is your blog?


  21. Good for you! My children are all grown but, if I had it to do over I would not vaccinate and would not make anything with sugar in it.


  22. You are not alone mama! Keep up the good word and remember that any time an idea challenges the status quo it goes through three stages: violent opposition, ridicule, and then acceptance. I just hope that not too many more children have to suffer before we reach acceptance.


  23. I wish information had been this accessible when my children were small and maybe the allergy, asthma, sinus, and other health issues which plagued our family for years would not have been as prevalent. I remember a heated discussion with a school nurse when I refused to continue treatment for my daughter’s “ear infection”. She had two sets of tubes in 5 yrs and repeated courses of antibiotics but no improvement in her hearing. She eventually outgrew it and hears fine now. She was not in any pain, we just had to talk directly to her & make her teachers aware.

    I must say that as a rule, her public school was very good at providing gluten free meals for her and when she took home ec, the teacher allowed her to make whatever accommodations were necessary and didn’t require that she taste anything that contained gluten. She did have the class test her gluten free alternatives though.


    1. Angi, Thank-you for sharing your story. What was the role of the school nurse in having any say over how you treated your daughters ear infections? Did you find that removing gluten helped her with her ear infections?


  24. This is my first time reading anything on your blog, and I just LOVE this post! Thank you for writing this. I started feeding my kids real food a little over a year ago (first GAPS, then found NT), and we have been SO blessed as a family because of the changes we’ve made. I was recently talking to a friend at church about it, and she said, “Just don’t go too far with it. My sister got into all that (meaning healthy eating) and her kids got kicked out of school because they smelled so bad.” WHAT!?!?! Your story about the bathing question reminded me of that. How does eating healthy food automatically mean offensive body odor???? So sad that people jump to judge others and assume because they’re walking a path that isn’t mainstream, that it’s wrong. Keep up the good work! You’re obviously doing an amazing job.


    1. Bonny, Thank-you for taking the time to share your story! Wow! Other healthy kids gets accused of being smelly too? How funny! I’m so happy to hear that your family has been blessed by the changes your’ve made. For our family it was the same way. There’s no turning back…


      1. This is my first time discovering your blog which was posted on my FB group of over 300 people, most of whom are just beginning the journey of natural health. I too found myself almost in tears saying YES, YES, YES! I have been raked over the coals lately by living and advocating the very same lifestyle your family enjoys and it has been difficult and lonely at times. Though I consider myself to be very “normal” and grew up in a very typical home, the person God has shaped me into is definitely on the fringes of society at this point. I’m a v-bac, home birthing mother of 4 who has had no need for doctors, medicines, or other interventions who ferments, cooks organic foods from scratch (Nourishing Traditions), uses herbs and other natural remedies, believes in prevention and prayer and would go to jail before I’d vaccinate my precious children (my oldest is vaccine damaged). I am constantly belittled, ridiculed, and judged for what I believe and stand for but I too believe that this mission is what God has called me to and I have no intentions of stopping any time soon. I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to have found your blog. I have found lots of support on my FB group, where I spend so much time teaching others the “why” and “how” of living for health and answering dozens of questions and emails every day, but I too benefit from knowing that there are others out there like me! I do find it very interesting how threatened people are by moms like us. Even people on my group who are there to learn and make changes are not ready to accept that their choices may be wrong, so they pick and choose what they want to believe based on how much effort is involved in remedying their current efforts ( at least that is how it seems to me). I know wholeheartedly that what I have come to know is the TRUTH and regardless of the opposition, we MUST fulfill our purposes! Thank you so much for your blog- I will be a regular reader! Ps- we love water kefir!


      2. I LOVE what you shared. Yes, Yes, Yes!

        I would go to jail too before I ever vaccinated one of my children. Haha!

        Vbac momma? Awesome. I am a reject c-section of 4. Never again. Those were miserable, unwanted, unplanned sections and I didn’t know better. Now I know better. Know of any vbac4 doctors?


  25. great article! My kids never get sick and I think people wonder why… healthy food, no vaccinations. It’s so sad to see a society riddled with illness but they are too brainwashed to use their own brains and change!


    1. I agree, it’s sad to see a society riddled with illness. It makes me sad to see babies and children sick. They don’t have a choice. That’s why I fight for the children. One day, they can make the change. Thank-you for taking the time to share your thoughts.


  26. i’ll keep this simple….. why does your daughter think..cupcakes are not healthy ? i do hope you answer this question.. thank you kindly


    1. I approved this comment only to ask a question in return. I’m not sure of the intentions behind this question, so I’ll keep it simple….what part of a processed, white-refined sugar, artificially flavored, non-food item cupcake is healthy?


      1. i feel like my question may have offended you…that was not my intent….if it did i apologize… this is only my opinion….i usually don’t respond to blogs.. etc…. but it touched me.. that a little 4 y/o girl has the mind set that a cupcake “is unhealthily”…… i am a registered nurse in a children’s hospital…. vital organs in our body need sugar to sustain life….. i have never heard anyone becoming ill from eating the artificial coloring in a cupcake to this date….PLEASE understand i TOTALLY BELIEVE IN TEACHING CHILDREN HEALTHY EATING HABITS….. but allowing her a cupcake every now and then….is healthy also…. Thank you for your response.. she is your daughter…. it is your choice what you feel is the best for her.. good luck !


      2. No your question didn’t offend me at all.

        I’m glad it touched you that a little 4 year old girl has the mindset to say no to foods that make her stomach hurt and give her diarrhea.

        “Allowing a cupcake every now and then…is healthy”? Hmmm….
        Yes, a healthy cupcake (one made from real food ingredients) yes, those are healthy and we eat those all the time.
        A non-healthy cupcake (made from lab made, artificial, processed dead foods, and loaded with white refined sugar and artificial colors and flavorings), no not healthy. At all. Ever.

        I absolutely do not agree with your opinion on vital organs needing refined white sugar to “sustain” life. In fact, in all the research I have done on white refined sugar, I have never come across such claims. There is natural occurring sugar in plenty of fruits and vegetables. That is what our body needs. Natural fruit sugar. HUGE DIFFERENCE. In addition, fruits are loaded with whole food vitamins, minerals, cellulose and natural antioxidants. These are fundamental nutrients. White sugar on the other hand is made from refining sugar cane, a process involving many chemicals. Or from beets, whose refinement also involves synthetic chemicals, and charcoal. The big problem is that the finished product contains none of the nutrients, vitamins, or minerals of the original plant.


        Here is an excellent read on refined white sugar:
        HOW MUCH SUGAR DO WE REALLY NEED? White sugar, none.

        If you have never heard of a child becoming ill after eating artificial coloring, I would recommend researching more. I have personally witnessed (in other children and my own children) immediate side effects from red dye. Are you familiar with artificial colors? Outlawed in Europe and all US restaurants, yet we are allowed to put them in food and snacks for children.

        Red 40 lake: Pigment manufactured to make insoluble color. Done by combining red 40 (a coal tar derivative) with a form of aluminum, calcium, barium potassium, strontium, or zirconium.
        Health effects: A suspected carcinogen. Has been linked to hyperactivity, Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and lower IQs in children. Some scientists question its safety since all tests were conducted by the manufacturer instead of the regulator, the FDA. May contain aluminum, which has been linked with lung & kidney disorders, and reduced skeletal mineralization. Alzheimer’s victims have been found with aluminum deposits in their brains, implicating aluminum as a factor in Alzheimer’s disease.

        Yellow 5 lake: Pigment manufactured to make insoluble color. Done by combining yellow 5 (a coal tar derivative) with a form of aluminum, calcium, barium potassium, strontium, or zirconium.
        Health effects: Linked to thyroid tumors, chromosomal damage, asthma attacks, hives and hyperactivity. Caution is advised if aspirin sensitive. When ingested, some aspirin sensitive patients have been reported to develop life threatening asthmatic symptoms. May contain aluminum, which has been linked with lung & kidney disorders, and reduced skeletal mineralization. Alzheimer’s victims have been found with aluminum deposits in their brains, implicating aluminum as a factor in Alzheimer’s disease.

        Blue 2 lake: Pigment manufactured to make insoluble color. Done by combining blue 2 (a coal tar derivative) with a form of aluminum, calcium, barium potassium, strontium, or zirconium.
        Health effects: Produces malignant tumors at the site of injection in rats. Possible effects include asthma, allergic reactions, hyperactivity, and heart problems, a skin, gastrointestinal, and respiratory tract irritant. May contain aluminum, which has been linked with lung & kidney disorders, and reduced skeletal mineralization. Alzheimer’s victims have been found with aluminum deposits in their brains, implicating aluminum as a factor in Alzheimer’s disease.

        Yellow 5: (known also as Tartrazine, E102) Coal tar derived artificial food coloring.
        Health effects: Linked to thyroid tumors, chromosomal damage, asthma attacks, hives and hyperactivity. Caution is advised if aspirin sensitive. When ingested, some aspirin sensitive patients have been reported to develop life threatening asthmatic symptoms
        Red 40: (Known also as Allura Red AC, E129) Coal tar derived artificial food coloring.
        Health effects: A suspected carcinogen. Has been linked to hyperactivity, Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and lower IQs in children. Some scientists question its safety since all tests were conducted by the manufacturer instead of the regulator, the FDA.

        Yellow 6: (Known also as Sunset Yellow FCF, E110) Coal tar derived artificial food coloring.
        Health effects: Known to cause allergic reactions and hyperactivity in children. Caution is advised if aspirin sensitive.

        Blue 1 lake: Pigment manufactured to make insoluble color. Done by combining blue 1 (a coal tar derivative) with a form of aluminum, calcium, barium potassium, strontium, or zirconium.
        Health effects: Produces malignant tumors at the site of injection and by ingestion in rats. Possible effects include asthma, hives, hay fever, low blood pressure, allergic reactions. Caution is advised if aspirin sensitive. May contain aluminum, which has been linked with lung & kidney disorders, and reduced skeletal mineralization. Alzheimer’s victims have been found with aluminum deposits in their brains, implicating aluminum as a factor in Alzheimer’s disease.

        Blue 1: (Known also as Brilliant Blue FCF, E133)Coal tar derived food coloring.
        Health effects: Produces malignant tumors at the site of injection and by ingestion in rats. Possible effects include asthma, hives, hay fever, low blood pressure, allergic reactions. Caution is advised if aspirin sensitive.

        What are your thoughts on high fructose corn syrup (HFCS)?


  27. I have had vaccinated my kids and I don’t feel offended by what you wrote. In fact, I am praying more and more about the decisions I make as a parent and I try to make the best ones and trust God to take care of the rest. I use natural baby wash, buy organic milk, give my kids probiotics. I take them to a “regular” doctor and on a tight budget I have spent several hundred dollars for my kids to see a naturopath. I will DO whatever God leads me to do in order to take care of my family. I think we all need to have a teachable spirit especially for the good of our children. I don’t care what people think only what God does. Keep on following your convictions, cause when we don’t, that’s when the trouble begins…


    1. Maria, Thank-you! It is very refreshing to hear that you are not offended, have a teachable spirit, and will do whatever God leads you to do. That is awesome! And I agree, the most powerful tool we have as mothers in our God given instinct. The day we don’t follow it, and let someone else decide for us, is the day we get in trouble! God bless you & your family!


  28. I finally had a chance to catch up on your latest blog. You are doing amazing things Jess…you have definitely found your calling. I love reading your posts, seems so simple yet everyone turns it into something complex. Garbage in, garbage out…basic stuff right?! Keep up the great work!


  29. Wow what a great post 🙂 I feel like I was writing it, I feel the same way on a weekly basis however my problem is family not teachers since my son is only 18 months 🙂 As a christian I totally agree on your views on the situation 🙂


    1. I’m sorry to hear that your struggles are family! Fortunately for me, I have an amazingly supportive family who are all on the same page! Don’t give up. Your family will thank-you one day! God Bless!


  30. I think at this point you might want to consider pulling your kids and homeschooling. Unfortunately those same teachers are MANDATORY reporters and one day you might have CPS at your door. I don’t vax, homeschool, homebirth, co-sleep…I totally “GET” you! And nope, my kids are never sick, most have never had an antibiotic either.


  31. This was for me a really comforting read. Its a hard life when you choose to go against the masses and I find quite a lonely life.
    People find it a bit scary having my boys for a play date in case they feed them something that will kill them on the spot. LOL Funny that cause its the food they are willing to feed their children on . SOOO misunderstood.
    My Journey began with my own education of healthy food and watching my second son showing signs of adhd as little as 9 mths old. After 20 + ear infection in his first 12 months and as many doses of antibiotics life was a nightmare.
    Suffice to say we changed to gluten free dairy free, and now are doing GAPs , Gut and Physcology syndrome and that include all organic we are all much healthier and happier. Had only a couple of ei in the last four years.
    I find that funniest reaction is the kids saying no thanks to sugar. “What your kid doesnt eat lollies” How cruel am I .
    Of I go for another punishing day of being a cruel mother who cares. LOL


    1. Haha! Yes, a cruel mother who cares 🙂
      WOW! 20 + ear infections in one year. Food makes SUCH a difference! I’m so happy to hear about your progress and success. That is amazing!

      Yes, it’s a lonely road at times, but also the most rewarding!


  32. Excellent post! Don’t worry about the school. You’d fit in perfectly with the homeschool community. We just say “NO” to the status-quo! 🙂


  33. oh, i love this post. i am a mother who has chosen to vaccinate her children, but i respect other’s choices not to. however, i always find it funny that my immune suppressed child (due to an organ transplant) is the healthiest child in the class. we eat as organically as possible, and try not to pollute our bodies with processed foods. a lot of moms laugh at me because i cook fresh – every. single. day. “how do you find the time?” – it’s important to me, so i just do.


    1. Thank-you for your response! I’m so happy to hear that you loved this post, despite our different beliefs in vaccines. That’s awesome! Yes, when we find what is important to us…we just do it 🙂


  34. Thank you! My boys were offered lollipops at the doctor’s office the other day and when we said no thank you, they stared at us as if there was something wrong with us. We are a Feingold family and it has made such a differences for us, but it’s nice to be reminded that we aren’t the only ones making choices for our kids that others might not understand.


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