Whenever I write a blog that quickly goes viral, the backlash is immediate. Through the years, I’ve come to expect it. Through the years, I’ve also learned that cyberspace bullies really do exist. Most of them hide behind fake names and a lot of them are paid pharma shrills. I have a zero tolerance and engagement policy. And this will be the one and only time I ever address this.
First let me say this: If you are new and recently subscribed to this blog, WELCOME! I’m thrilled you are here. This post is not for you. Please read my post: “Why Do I Care So Much?” to learn a little more about me and this reasons behind this blog. I’m happy to have you along for this journey! The rest of the post is written for the Blog Bullies. So here we go…
Dear Blog Bullies, I Don’t See Your Comments.
I have a comment moderator that moderates each comment before I ever see them. Let me repeat blog bullies: I don’t see your comments.
Your comment is immediately deleted if:
*you use profanity
*you hide behind a fake name that uses profanity
*your comment involves name calling and insults
*you use bullying and intimidation tactics
*you belittle my Faith
*you demand my “credentials”
*you tell me I’m “just a mom”
*you demand that I prove my research
*you entice me to defend myself
*you tell me I don’t know how to read the science
*you tell me I’m putting my kids or other kids at risk
*you try to tell me vaccines don’t cause autism
*you try to tell me vaccine reactions are rare
*you try to tell me Wakefield’s findings were discredited
*you try to tell me vaccines saved the world from polio & smallpox
*you try to pressure me using stories about children in 3rd world countries.
*you give me links to the CDC or WHO
*If you send me 18 paragraphs commenting on everything you disagree with, sentence by sentence, please know that your comment is deleted about 3 sentences in, and you’ve pretty much just wasted a few hours of your life. Unless of course you are being paid by the anti-vaccine surveillance and alert system, then I expect you to have all the time in the world finding blogs like mine to bully. After all, you are being paid for a job with a mission statement to: “establish an internet-based global monitoring and rapid alert system for finding, analyzing, and counteracting misinformation communication campaigns regarding vaccines to support global immunization efforts”. A whole lot of Bill Gates money went into this program, so I expect there are quite a few of you. You are not real. Neither are your comments.
I don’t have to prove myself to you. I don’t know you. If you don’t like the content in the blog, please go elsewhere to learn. I don’t need to have a PhD or be an MD or have immunology training and work in the “health”care industry, to know how to use logic and THINK for myself. Vaccines are a belief system. You get to believe in them. I don’t. I get to do what I want to do for me and my kids. I could throw logic and science and statistics at you all day, and at the end of the day, you will still choose to believe in vaccines, because that’s what you want to believe. Guess what? I don’t have to believe what you believe. And you can’t make me.
Because here’s the thing. I could sit here all day and link every THINKING doctor who understands the same truth and logic that I have found. Would it really make a difference if I was a doctor? No, you’d find a new way to try to bully. Because that’s what bullies do.
“I never imagined myself in this position, least so in the very beginning of my Ph.D. research training in immunology. In fact, at that time, I was very enthusiastic about the concept of vaccination, just like any typical immunologist. However, after years of doing research in immunology, observing scientific activities of my superiors, and analyzing vaccine issues, I realized that vaccination is one of the most deceptive inventions the science could ever convince the world to accept.” -Vaccine Illusion, written by Tetyana Obukhanych (Ph.D. in immunology from Rockefeller University, New York, NY)
What about the other comments?
After a moderator trashes the insults, death wishes, and such…. I do read the respectful comments even when they have different view points. What I find is there is always a common theme in the comments from those who don’t agree with the particular post at that time. This last post brought out a very common theme and I would like to address it.
In my previous measles post I asked “How are the unvaccinated a threat?”
And I shared a quote from a pediatrician about how preposterous it is to think that a child who is vaccinated no longer carries the bacteria or the viruses that they have been vaccinated against. And how preposterous it is to the think that the unvaccinated child is carrying some secret bacteria or viruses that no-one else is carrying. “You can’t vaccinate believing that your children are protected and then feel that your children are not protected because somehow, some non-vaccinated child is carrying some secret organism that no-one else is carrying. You can’t have it both ways. It just doesn’t make any sense”.
While some still believe that somehow the unvaccinated can put the vaccinated at risk, the more common theme was about how the unvaccinated can put those who CAN’T receive vaccines at risk.
The comment goes something like this:
-“Un-vaccinated children are a threat because there are some people who have forms of immunodeficiency diseases that a “herd immunity” will help protect them from. You are putting kids at risk that for medical reasons can’t receive them, ie. immune system disorders, etc. You are also putting babies at risk who are too young to receive vaccines”
-“I find those who refuse to immunize the epitome of selfishness and self-centeredness. Stop thinking only of yourself and consider those around you”
My personal favorite:
-“You fail to realize that many kids can still get measles even if they got the vaccine. So your un-vaccinated child could potentially infect a vaccinated one. Your behavior is actually putting other children at risk”
Here’s how I read that last one: “You fail to realize that vaccines don’t work. So your unvaccinated child could potentially infect a vaccinated one. So go get your unvaccinated child vaccinated with a vaccine that doesn’t work to protect the vaccinated child who wasn’t originally protected from the vaccine that didn’t work”
How is the previously unvaccinated child who is now vaccinated going to now protect the always vaccinated child if the vaccine doesn’t work?
Oh logic, where art thou?
But in all seriousness….
Here is my response plain and simple:
My responsibility as a parent is to protect my own children. The end.
At the end of the day, the only person who will answer for my children is ME. I walk daily with peace and confidence over MY decisions for MY children. Their immune systems were fearfully and wonderfully made. Every single thing that goes into their bodies (and does not go into their bodies) is building and strengthening their immune systems. Their health is the living proof. I do not expect anyone else to protect my children. And I will not be bullied into thinking that it is my responsibility to protect other children. I think it’s selfish that anyone would expect that. As my wise friend Em says: “You worry about your immune system and I’ll worry about mine”. The Greater Good is a movie based on the myth of Herd Immunity. If not, then every single adult who has not had a booster in 50 or so years is also “threat” and a “risk” to those who can’t receive vaccines. As if.
One would also have to believe that vaccines do in fact “protect” to think that it’s appropriate to expect people to vaccinate to keep others safe. It’s quite silly to think that a vaccinated child could “protect” anyone. And that an unvaccinated child is a “threat”.
How can an unvaccinated individual without said diseases expose others to a disease they do not have?
Just plain silly.
The entire vaccine industry is built on fear and the myth of herd immunity. If we can’t make people think it is their responsibility to protect others, then there becomes no social pressure to vaccinate. Without the social pressure, what argument is left to bully the unvaccinated?
So NO! it is not my responsibility to put my children at risk with a product that is neither safe or effective in order to “protect” others.
By the way, who protects the vaccine-injured children?
Modern Alternative Mama published such a fantastic piece last week. I’m going to share some of that article below, as it eloquently speaks what so many of us THINKING MOTHERS feel. Originally published on her site, you can find the FULL article (HERE). Great post Kate!
“I’m not going to defend myself against the bullies. I’m not going to throw facts and statistics at you, showing how reasonable my position actually is. (My position, by the way, is that every parent should have the right to choose if they want to vaccinate or not. If you want to, that’s fine.) I’m not going to try to mount an actual logical argument. Because these people are bullies. They are not interested in facts. They are not interested in logic. They are only interested in forcing people to accept their will.
Herd Immunity: Who Cares
The biggest reason people want me, and everyone, to vaccinate is herd immunity. They claim that unless 95% or greater of the population is vaccinated, that we all risk these diseases beginning to circulate again wildly — and that the elderly, infants, and immunocompromised will be at serious risk.
Let’s ignore that:
- Most of the adult population isn’t up to date on boosters and/or never received certain vaccines in the first place
- Over 95% of children ARE up to date on their vaccines
- We’ve had major advances in medical science that allow us to treat diseases differently so they’re NOT deadly anymore
I make the decisions that are right for my child. I do. With no input from you or anyone else, unless I choose to consult them. And I’m not asking right now. I’m not willing to put my children at risk on the tiny chance that it might someday prevent another child from getting a disease (that most likely won’t harm him or her).
No, I don’t think it’s selfish to say that. In fact, I think it’s selfish for people to ask me to vaccinate when I’ve made a decision not to. That’s right — you’re being selfish to try to force your will onto me. Vaccines are not without risk. In fact, there are thousands of reports of children who have died or been permanently damaged by vaccines. But vaccine pushers are going to tell me that that doesn’t really happen that often, and it doesn’t really matter, that it’s “worth it” to “save” some other children. (Never mind that vaccine reactions are much more common than most people know, and that severe complications from the disease themselves are quite rare….)
I’m sorry, but having my own child dead or damaged isn’t worth it to me, to possibly save another child from an uncomfortable week. Not by a long shot.
I will not be bullied into vaccinating. I won’t place my child at risk to possibly help someone else’s child. I.will.not. And don’t ask me to, either. You don’t have that right.
Responsibility to Society
Some of you say, okay, fine — don’t vaccinate. But then don’t ever come out in public. Don’t go to libraries, to public schools, to anywhere that your child might “infect” someone else.
I say, do you know how silly that is?
First, unvaccinated children are not disease carriers. Under normal circumstances, they’re as likely as anyone else to catch something. Most of what they’re likely to catch, we don’t vaccinate for anyway. The rotovirus (stomach flu) that’s been going around this year is truly nasty…but we don’t vaccinate for it. I don’t see this as being any worse or different than measles. Yet if my family inadvertently gave it to someone else, they would just say “It happens.” But if my family somehow gave someone measles? They might flip out.
It’s not different, people. These illnesses are pretty equally bad. And pretty equally “fine,” in the sense that you will recover with no lasting damage.
“They” say that people like me aren’t scared enough about these diseases, that we don’t really remember what they are like. I say, the opposite side is too scared. Good job, media! They’ve made people think that if you get polio, you will end up paralyzed and in need of an iron lung (not even remotely close), that if you get mumps you will end up sterile (almost no chance), that if you get measles you will go blind (this wasn’t even reported as a complication in any case in the last 30+ years in the U.S.).
Our responsibility to society is simple: don’t go out in public if you are sick.
Yeah! That’s it!
There’s no reason to keep healthy people out of the public sphere just because they haven’t had a vaccine. It’s ridiculous. It’s paranoid. It’s bordering on obsession and insanity. And I’m honestly not blaming most who think this — it goes back to the media. They’ve done a great job of scaring people into vaccinating, and against those who choose not to”. -Modern Alternative Mama
So Dear Blog Bullies:
Stop wasting your time commenting on this blog. This blog is not open for dialogue with you. No matter how hard you try, you will not entice me into a debate with you.
And one more thing you should know about me,
You will never change my decision.
Signed, a thinking MOM (yep, that’s all) 🙂